Do you really “hate” it?

After reading a couple of hundreds blogs, I’ve realized how I don’t “hate” many things that easily.

I haven’t fulfilled a psychology course or linguistics, however I intend to express myself trying to use the most suitable and correct words for my feelings.

I like following the comments of a blog sometimes more than the blog itself. Yesterday I noticed that almost everybody was about “to hate” or has already “hated” something which is not deserving the strength of the verb itself.

How is “to hate” ?

What makes / should make us “hate” something?

A couple of minutes ago my colleagues and I were having our espresso and telling each other some funny stories of our pets. My colleague without any harsh or bad manner said she hated cats. Naturally I felt the need to ask why? After listening to her relatively unimportant story about how she found them cold, political, and unthankful, I tried to find out whether these characteristics of animals cause a real “hatred” inside us.

Doesn’t hatred usually appear by more striking behaviours or damages we or our loved ones receive? Is it really that easy to “hate” an animal only because of his natural character?

If an unthankful cat is causing us hate him, then what should we feel for a murderer human being???

I think my colleague had never felt a real hatred for cats but just “disliked” them, only she didn’t pick the correct word for her feelings.

When I read all the comments on WAR OF WORDS blog yesterday, I saw the same thing in a more ironic way.

The subject was about words, abbreviations and meanings, but almost 90 percent of the readers started their first sentences with “I hate this word” or “I hate the way people pronounce it”  etc…

And the blogger has not even noticed this ear killing expression so far!


Do you really “hate” it?” üzerine 10 yorum

    1. Dear Janet,

      Thank you very much for your comment. If only more of us were sensitive with the words, world would look different.
      I am writing almost every day, but they seem to be too raw to publish and I mostly write in Turkish… Perhaps I must categorize my texts under language titles 🙂
      Thanks again!

  1. Well said! The word ‘hate’ is overused and so has lost its power. As you say, if we ‘hate’ cats, then how do we feel about people who harm others? Another word I keep advising my students not to use, is ‘awesome’. Again, it’s too strong for most situations in life. If a film or a piece of clothing is ‘awesome’, then how do we describe our feelings for a perfect full moon reflected in a Venice canal, or the Grand Canyon, or something truly ‘awesome’?

  2. In England, if a child hates certain food, he would be most likely to get told off if he says, “I hate……”, because it sounds so ungrateful. I heard parents teaching their children saying, ‘xxx is not my favourite’, or ‘I’ve tried (eating some of it), but ……(I really don’t like carrots.)” I agree that ‘hate’ is a strong word, in a sense that it’s too abrupt, too direct and too rude to show one’s displeasure in a more formal setting. Also, I think, in education, teachers would tend to say they are ‘upset’ by certain behaviours (disrespectful) or that they ‘can’t accept’ certain behaviour — not using the word ‘hate’ at a person, but to show that it is the behaviour itself that is not acceptable and therefore cannot be tolerated.

    1. Absolutely! It is very important that teachers are more aware of the words and their strength. Languages are full of nicer words even for the worst things in the world. We adults should really pay attention to our ways of expression.

      1. Words are powerful. Like colours on a spectrum, there are gradients of colours. In my school day, in an oriental education background, my teachers used to call me ‘stupid’….a lot of negative words.

        I hope you enjoy this short video about the power of words.

  3. I don’t think many people are naturally multilingual. It’s never too late to acquire a new language as an adult. Some people seem to be able to speak a few languages (or dialects), but if you don’t have a strong language (mother tongue), you won’t be able to express your inner self with the subtlety of a language, nor to explore the world with deep thinking. Children can be damaged by having various languages if they don’t have a strong command in one language.
    Interestingly, speakers of a second language (like you and me) tend to strive to find accurate words to express ourselves precisely in English, yet you may see some native speakers are lazy and they even abuse the use of their beautiful language.

  4. Geri bildirim: Emre

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